Let’s figure it out together
Therapy for Anxiety, Burnout, and Stress
It’s all too much, too hard…
The list of things that need to be done at work and at home is overwhelming. Someone always needs something from you. It never lets up. You might dread opening email or reading text messages because the thought of adding one more thing to your to-do list makes you want to scream. Or cry. Or both. Yet saying no to requests doesn’t feel possible because people count on you to get things done. It would be selfish not to stay up until 11:30pm making a casserole for the meal train, right? Everything feels urgent.
Maybe you’ve prided yourself on being able to keep it together for yourself and everyone else. But now you’re exhausted. Perhaps you’ve gotten compliments on how nice your house looks when people come over, but you feel guilty because you were snapping at your kids who left their crap all over the place right before guests arrived. Maybe you’ve been climbing the corporate ladder for the last 15 years. But now you feel uninspired, undervalued, and you’re wondering what it’s all been for.
You might be feeling:
like you’re not present in your life, like you’re just going through the motions
drained, irritable, and resentful
like your mind is always going, planning, and busy
stuck or trapped
like the things you really want in life are impossible
But I have to be productive. Isn’t slowing down being lazy?
In a word, no. Do you remember when you finally took that day off to “rest?” Then an hour in, you got antsy and ended up doing four loads of laundry, grocery shopping, and scrubbing the bathroom grout because you needed to feel productive. At the end of the day, did you actually feel rested or were you just relieved that a few things got crossed off the to-do list?
Life isn’t a “productivity or laziness” situation. While the satisfaction of accomplishing a task feels good, it tends to fade rather quickly, right? (I mean, how good are you still feeling about having scrubbed that bathroom grout?) My clients worry about being productive and spend a lot of time lamenting that they don’t have joy or fulfillment in their lives.
Do you remember the last time you really connected with your friends or went on a date with your partner? How about the last time you had a gut-busting, laugh-until-it-hurts moment? So often we sacrifice the things that allow us to feel truly recharged and that bring us joy because our minds say we’ll become lazy. We do not have to move through life sacrificing our joy and wellbeing in the name of productivity. We can be well and get things done, but the approach needs to be different.
A deeply meaningful and fulfilling life is available to you.
Let’s work together to find what you feel is missing from your life. What do you need more of? What do you need less of? We can brainstorm solutions. Let’s identify the stories your mind tells you that keep you stuck in the wash, rinse, repeat humdrum of life. We can find ways to change your relationship with those stories so they have less of a grip on you.
When my clients come to my office and sit on the couch, it’s often the first time they’ve paused to take an intentional breath all day. I want to help you learn that you are worthy of receiving care and how to treat yourself like you matter. Because you do. We can work toward making changes to cultivate a life that reflects what matters most to you.
Your mind might be telling you why therapy isn’t for you
It’s too vulnerable to open up to a rando you found on the internet
You should be able to solve your problems on your own
It’s selfish to divert resources to yourself when your kid wants to play on the travel team
I totally get it. Here’s the thing, though:
If trying to muscle through and white-knuckling life was working, you wouldn’t be reading this webpage.
How I work
Think About What’s Possible
01.
Consultation Call
We’ll have a free 15-minute conversation to assess your needs and if we’d be a good fit.
02.
Initial Session
We’ll talk more about what you want to be different in your life and about your history.
03.
Make A Plan Together
We’ll talk about what therapy could look like for you and how it can help you reach your goals.
04.
Take It At Your Own Pace
What you share is up to you. I’ll challenge you to step outside your comfort zone, encouraging you all the way.
There might be things we can’t change in your life, but we can work toward changing your relationship with them so they feel less hard.
I use several kinds of interventions to tailor my work to what clients need in the moment.
Some of them include:
Mindfulness-focused interventions to help clients identify patterns that keep them stuck and to create the changes they want to make in their lives
Behavioral strategies to help clients learn to approach that which has been avoided
Somatic exercises to move clients out of their heads and into their bodies
Parts work to help clients connect to their younger self
Compassion-focused techniques to help clients become kinder to themselves
Take a breath and Pause
We are human beings, not human doings.
Give yourself the opportunity to reflect on your values, recalibrate how you think about your life, and how you treat yourself. By doing this, you can help yourself really live. It can help you show up to your relationships in the way you want to show up. It can help you live in a way that reflects what you want your life to be about. I would be honored to do this work with you.